Why Matt James And Rachael Kirkconnell Broke Up

However she did go into what precipitated the breakup that “blindsided” her, together with the “pink flag” she mentioned she missed.

“He mentioned that he did not wish to stay collectively till we have been married. He is a really spiritual man so I used to be like, ‘That is OK. I can do this.’ However on the similar time I am just a little confused as a result of we’re nonetheless you realize touring collectively, staying in the identical lodge and it was like we have been residing collectively,” she mentioned.

In hindsight, Kirkconnell mentioned she now believes she was “making excuses” for James.

“I additionally assume it was me attempting to justify it simply because I did not wish to fear like, ‘Nicely, is that this worry of taking the subsequent steps?'” she mentioned.

On the similar time, the previous couple frequently spoke about beginning a household and had lately mentioned engagement rings.

“(Speaking about rings) was an enormous deal, I’d say. That is once I was like, ‘Wow, OK, he actually is on board with this.’ That was such a inexperienced flag to me,” she mentioned.

Kirkconnell mentioned that talks of marriage “did scare him” at first, making her marvel about the way forward for their relationship.

“I requested myself, ‘Is it me or is it him? Is it one thing that he wants to determine? Is there one thing that scares him? Is there one thing that he went by means of rising up that he has this trauma now, or am I simply not his excellent particular person?” she mentioned.

On Jan. 16, James shared an Instagram publish saying his breakup with Kirkconnell after 4 years collectively.

“Father God, give Rachael and I energy to fix our damaged hearts. Give us a peace about this resolution to finish our relationship that transcends worldly understanding,” he captioned the publish. “Bathe our family and friends with kindness and like to consolation us. And remind us that our Pleasure comes from you, Lord 💔.”

Throughout her look on “Name Her Daddy,” Kirkconnell shared some specifics about how the breakup unfolded.

After getting right into a easy argument, the couple had an extended dialog about the way forward for their relationship.

“It was simply a type of issues the place he, I believe, simply had this realization that, ‘I ought to wish to suggest to you by this time. At this level in our relationship, I must be wanting these issues and I must be prepared for that however I am not nonetheless. I nonetheless do not feel like we’re prepared or I do not really feel like I am prepared. I do not know if I ever see myself proposing to you. I am unable to truly see myself married to you,'” she mentioned.

Kirkconnell informed James that he ought to really feel prepared after 4 years collectively. The couple determined to go their separate methods.

“He simply mentioned, ‘You’re stunning, sensible and humorous and also you’ll discover somebody. You may discover a man that may love you for you.’ However yeah, he simply did not assume it was him,” she mentioned.

Kirkconnell mentioned she heard about James’ breakup publish on Instagram from a good friend whereas she was on a flight.

“I am freaking out as a result of I simply obtained damaged up with and now just a few hours later it is for the entire world to see and I am nonetheless attempting to course of it. I am nonetheless in complete shock,” she mentioned.

Kirkconnell additionally had a concept about why James determined to format the breakup publish the best way he did.

“It nearly appeared like saying it like a prayer was the simpler approach to say it than to say one thing actual … simply one thing genuine to our precise relationship. But it surely’s very him. I suppose it did not shock me that he mentioned it like that. I used to be simply stunned that he mentioned it in any respect, that he posted that,” she mentioned.